
Keeping the Faith
by Addie Strong Posted: Tue., Sep. 18, 2007 , 12:26 pm EDT
As a breast cancer survivor and president of Sisters Network, Carolyn Whitney found a way to educate other women and strengthen spirits — including her own. 
Carolyn Whitney hadn’t had a mammogram or done a breast self-exam in several years. In fact, she used to tease her doctor for his constant requests that she start doing the monthly exams on her own. “Because I had small breasts, I didn’t think it would be necessary,” she says. “I joked all the time, ‘When I lie down, they disappear anyway!’”
Then, in September 2000, when she was 62 years old, Whitney happened to feel a lump in her breast while she was at work as a teacher for Memphis City Schools. Describing herself as “hardheaded,” she waited two weeks before making a doctor’s appointment. Although her physician did not notice anything strange during the visit, Whitney’s husband did feel a lump and saw a blue-tinted indentation in her breast later that day. Whitney returned to the clinic that same evening and was sent for a mammogram and an ultrasound. These tests finally diagnosed her with Stage 1 breast cancer.
“God was with me — he didn’t let me panic,” says Whitney. “He didn’t allow that information to break my spirit.” Instead, she consulted a surgeon, who gave her the choice between a mastectomy and a lumpectomy. At the time, Whitney had never even heard of a lumpectomy, but after much thought and many prayers, she opted for the less-invasive procedure. “I instructed them to remove whatever they found,” she recalls. “I said, ‘Don’t wake me up and tell me we’ve got to go back and do this again.’”
Although Whitney had only noticed a lump and strange marks on her right breast, her doctors also found four lumps in her left breast and performed a double lumpectomy. Fortunately, the masses in her left breast were benign (not cancerous); however, the tumor in her right breast was malignant, as were four of the 18 lymph nodes they removed from the right side of Whitney’s body.
After recovering from her surgery, Whitney had four chemotherapy treatments as well as 33 radiation sessions. Despite the harsh side effects — “My taste buds were shot to the curb. I didn’t want to eat anything because everything had that metallic taste,” she says — Whitney feels blessed to have come through relatively unscathed. “The radiation gave me a gorgeous tan,” she says, laughing. “I’m lucky because I’ve seen so many people who’ve had to stop their treatments because of the burns. I saw how it could have been as opposed to how it was.”
Much of her strength during those grueling months, she says, came from a dedicated and loving support system that included her husband and extended family. Her brother, who is 11 years younger, came to each and every one of her treatment sessions. “He came before work and stayed with me until it was time for him to go back to work,” Whitney remembers. “And he was there in the evenings to make sure I was OK.”
Meanwhile, Whitney’s fingernails and toenails had turned black, and her hair had fallen out from the chemo. “I never wanted to look sick just because I was sick,” she says. “It’s a mind thing.” Because she couldn’t get manicures (the chemo had made her immune system too weak), Whitney began doing her own nails to keep them strong. “I watched them grow back to the way they were — strong, healthy and beautiful,” she says. Her hair, however, was another story. The wigs she had been wearing hurt her sensitive scalp, but Whitney’s daughter was concerned that she’d catch a cold without something to cover her head. Finally, during one of her chemo sessions, Whitney’s daughter removed the shawl she was wearing and draped it over Whitney’s bare head.
The head wraps put an end to the painful wigs, and they started a whole new chapter in Whitney’s life — literally. In 2006, Whitney published her first book, “Wrapped in God’s Blessings.” One such blessing in her life? Sisters Network Memphis Chapter, the local affiliate of a breast cancer survivorship organization for African American women.
After hearing about the group from her nephew and a Nashville member, Whitney wrote Sisters Network’s national office to request more information. She organized the first executive board meeting of the new Memphis chapter in February 2005, and held the first official meeting for all members in March. Since then, as both the founder and president, Whitney has seen her chapter grow from 20 to 75 members. “So many African American women are being affected [by breast cancer],” Whitney says. “Our goal is to reach as many as we can to give as much information as we can about mammograms, breast self-exams and clinical breast exams.”
Two members recently learned that their breast cancer had metastasized and spread to other areas of their body. Whitney and the other women bring them greeting cards at every meeting, organize a prayer line and have a phone committee to keep everyone in touch. “We try to let them know that we are as close as the telephone,” Whitney explains, “and that they don’t have to wait until we meet if the need to talk to someone. We’re pretty close-knit. We’re a family. We try to celebrate life as often as we can together.”
Diagnosed in: 2000
On her faith: “It’s a blessing to be able to talk about where I am now as opposed to where I was. The strength I’ve gained. The faith — a deeper faith in God — I have because of where I was. It makes you appreciate life so much more.”
Her source of support: Her husband, daughter, brother and the rest of her family.
Role model: “My mom, who passed away. She worked so hard to make sure my life would be different. I never knew what we didn’t have because there was so much love and giving in our family.”
Her next big goal: To be a professional singer. “Just to be able to tell my story and end it with a praise song — that’s my dream.”
Nominated to be a Lifetime TV breast cancer hero by: Sisters Network
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Link to Lifetime TV Article:
http://www.lifetimetv.com/community/my-lifetime-commitment/breast-cancer/portrait/keeping-faith